Being Malaysian

Koko Ong came back from Japan, bought this knitted top with England flag on it as a souvenir from Japan. 

Bit funny. Bought England flg in Japan which is most probably made in China. haha. Ok, no matter you like it or not, The Tag made in China is like mushroom after rain. Sporulate all over. hmmm.. 

ootd. Knitted top from Japan, H&M pants and cheap shoes. 

Seems like I'm losing weight again. haihz. 

Surprisingly it's good in keeping me warm all the time, not sure is it because of the material or the heart of my brother. LOL. gou tui dao~狗腿到~~~

So I wear it whenever it is cold. 

My friend asked me: why are you wearing England Flag, please you are Malaysian. 

=.=

Wearing England flag doesn't show how not patriotic I am being a Malaysian. Same goes the other way round. 

Does wearing Malaysia flag only show the patriotism that a Malaysian hold? 

I laughed it off. 

Last shot before I take it off. 

Super lengthy 2013's resolution

Since I have no mood to study now, so I decided to blog about my new year resolution.

The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose 

waaa.. deep to core! haha. So! here's the list

1. Be more tidy. I'm a messy girl. Tidy is never a word used to describe me and I never wanted to be. But, for this new year and to challenge myself, I set the goal. To be MORE tidy. *Please, I didn't say I want to be a neat and tidy girl. I just said, MORE. hahaha* 
2. To learn but not memorize. To appreciate but not just study. As I enter clinical year, things change to more clinical and memorize seriously is not enough. I wanna learn. I wanna understand. 
3. To practice more and be more brave to ask question in lecture. In the middle of lecture. Maybe I should sit in front then I would be more brave. I hope so. I remember last time during Form 6, I always ask question. because my class only have like 18 students? in biology class, only like 8? I miss those time. Form 6 is one of the memory I like. 
4. To enjoy life. Life is miserable if we don't spend time to enjoy the moment. The sweet, the happy, the bitter, the sad, every moment. 
5. Smile everyday when I wake up. Be the first person to cheer myself up. 
6. Insta as much as possible. (If you play insta also, add me, chialin17)
7. Blog as often as I can. Because these 2 are the best way to record my life. In words and in photos. 
8. To be a better blogger. until Aud and Tim knows me. (this don't have any expiry date, take note lol) Can die after that. There are people have singers and  actors as idol, while mine is this sweet married couple as my idol. This started ever since the meme proposal. I seldom have idol, even I had, it never lasts long. Most after the movie/drama finish, few days later, the names fade out from my mouth. But, for tim and aud, it has been a habit to follow them. *stalker level to the max* 
9. To have more friends. Blogging is definitely the way. I only blog for like 8 months, but I know a lot of friends from blogging!! and end up they are all very nice and steady! I didn't even started join Nuffnang event. Can you imagine how many new friends I may encounter if I join in their event? I have been anticipated. 
10. To contact with those old friends that lost contact. These few days I have been chatting with old friend that once very close to. I want more of those time. 
11. Not to lose contact and proximity with my friends even after graduate. At the end of 2012, I realise, friends are like wine, the longer it is, the smoother and tastier it is to be. You know each other so well that you can tell what she is thinking from a facial expression in split seconds, a single words, a posture, eyes. You know the meaning behind those words. 
12. To have more time with and be grateful of my family. For always be there. Even though I don't like to share any sad moments of mine with them, but they are who whom really support of me. Mentally, physically and financially hahaha! 
13. To learn to speak British English as I'm going to go UK for 2 weeks practical and 2 weeks holidays. I'm so blessed! I hope I will not be broke neither my parents and Monkey! Hopefully can get sponsorship or discount accommodation if I can contact them say whether if I advertise in blog, may them give us a bit discount? I know by now it's impossible to have while my popularity is nearly zero. Lol. But who knows. I am always optimistic! =D *I got freed food, movie tickets from this blog, so let's see how's my luck.*  Or anyone of you have relative there, can lend me a bed/sofa to sleep on? haha *cheapskate to max*
14. To learn to speak some basic Japanese! The accommodation may be provided, so I have no worry. Just have to ENJOY! haha. I wanna buy lot lot lot fake eyelashes there!  and Japan yen is dropping! Hahahaa! Please, drop some more.. for the sake of this poor student. haha.  
15. To be more pretty!! Yes! Life long most shallow goal!! but which girl don't wanna be pretty, tell me!
16. To love Monkey more and make him loves me more. More than I love him. Lol. I'm selfish I know. But I don't wanna be hurt anymore. And I know he won't. *smile*  

I guess that's all!

Congratulation! You have finish reading 10,000 words POEM. haha!

How about your new year's resolution? 

Oh oh oh yeah! one more! 

17. To be fatter. I always want to be fatter as my current weight is 41.5 kg. highest is 42.3kg. I don't wanna look like anorexic big head small body, walking skeleton even I have been like that since I was born.

Wish you a happy day ahead. 

Thank you for reading. 

Ugly Truth 2

No one can be liked by everyone.

We were born and raised up into personality. Each of us is special because no one would be the same with us, even identical twins have their own different thoughts.

And once a person is hated and got chopped HATE in the mindset, anything that he/she does would annoy you. Even walk pass you, you also felt annoyed.

I know this well. *have I told you one of my bff is someone I used to hate? haha* So, I manage to remove the mindset. It's either I'm too kind to her or she is just too funny and nice that I scold myself for hated her before or both. I think it's because I'm too kind haha. XP



I know the fact, but I still feel sad when I get to know that I was hated or disliked by someone. For this time, it's a she. I don't know. I always try to be nice with her, but maybe it's in her mindset already.


I'm not perfect and don't want to be perfect, even when I become perfect, I think there will still have people that don't like me. No one can be liked by everyone.



To the haters, if you don't like me, just ignore me. Because if I would do the same.


To my friends, so glad that you guys are always there for me whenever I need you guys. Fun and laughter, Sad and sorrow, still be with me. Food and gossip, Karaoke and lecture, Notes and bills. Thanks for everything as you guys are a part in my life.

So glad that my food blogger friends still contact me even I can't attend the food review for thousand times and FFK once. *aaaaawhhhhh sorry*


Thanks to hater, that you remind me how good my life is.
And I see your life is good also. But if you don't dislike me, it would be better. Because I'm a funny person deep down inside and one of my coursemate Miss daisy duck hated me also. But see, she likes me so much now. *waaaaa...* *I'm serious. Maybe less than T la. I know it's less than T* haha.


I  think the only person can be liked have to look like this.

The red one named ZaiZai and I'm his mum. He is such a no manner kid that laughed at greenie's small penis can only be covered with 1 leaf. haha.

Smile more.


Ugly truth 1

Marriage because of pregnancy. Is it doomed?

Came across a post talking about the ideal age of getting married, and marriage because of pregnancy, aka short gun marriage by him.. remind me of one of my secondary friends, just like what happen in drama, taaaah-daaaaaa, positive pregnancy test.

All of us know, u have 3 choices and you can only opt one.

1. tell the handler.
Sit down. Not going to believe it..

Digest all the info told...

and it takes time
.
.
.
.
.
.
Damn, still not going to believe it..

Must be kidding me.

buy few more test dip.

All positive *maybe one negative, you know, it's not 100% accurate*

have to believe it even though you still don't think it really happens on you.


Let's get married.

2. not going to tell anyone, or maybe tell handler. But she is more calm than the previous one.

she is not going to get married because of the baby. She is going to give birth to the baby, but she doesn't mind to be single mum. *cool*


3. Abortion which is a really bad idea.
But when it's about a person's future that can be so much affected and influenced by the baby,
and no one can guarantee that the marriage would be happily ever after just like the prince and princess.
*the point is prince and princess, they don't get married because of baby as well.*
*or may be they did, just the fairy tales hide it from us, because it meant to be perfect, and reality is never perfect*


I heard of all three above before. *because I'm a gossip queen with principles, cheh~ *
Parents have been telling me how bad/worse a marriage and life would be if you end up pregnant before married and you choose the first choice which is the most common decision.


and after so long, and a lot incidence happens and start seeing friends getting married one by one, either because of pregnant or not, plus, came across the post, I decided to say something good about it using my friend as a reference.

Disclaimer: Permission was given by my friend to mention and use her photo in this blog post.

so, Marriage because of pregnancy. Is it doomed?

I guess not.

To be frank, a lot of people don't see this marriage would have a good ending. *stupid, good marriage never has ending*

I was one of them. But when I send my greeting and congratz to her, it is full of sincerity.
*I traced back what I wrote, it is what I wrote : 祝你幸福！一定要幸福哦！means wish u bahagia, u must/ have to be bahagia!

I'm sincerely hope she will be xin fu always. *xin fu is bahagia.* because she is my friend (even though we hardly talk and contact each other) and don't know, just the feeling that I hope she can live out of the expectation by all those people and shine together with her baby and the man she loves *I actually don't know him yet. May be in the future.*


So, here are some of the facts that I saw. I didn't make an interview with her, but I actually wish I do, because i'm so curious about it. Hey, it is the legend----wait for it---dary marriage that a lot people would actually curious about.

first and foremost and the most important, can be slim back easily! HOT mum! definately! Dude, MUM at 23 years old, young teenage face plus nice body with boobs cup jump 3 level la! * exaggerated me*



You don't believe me, check it out yourself!
Before parturition. *parturition used for human also? I have been using this in vet field la, not sure human used it not. haha.. wth*

definitely not the right one. It's the left.

And after!

taaaa-daaaa

hot!! nose bleed! 

 Do you agree? age really matters when comes to diet, slimming and health.

Next. 

A cute and healthy baby that you will have! 

Oh My God! So cute~~  

Hello... who are chuuuuu~~where is mommy...

A lot researches have been done. The health of babies correlates with the age of mummies. 

The older the ovum, the higher percentage of baby to have disease, Down's syndrome and etc *can't imagine I am writing this while baby looking at me from the pic. 

My conversation to the baby in the pic: not you la, darling. you are healthy, no worry.. ahlalalalala~~angugugu... *ignore me* *excuse yourself if you wanna vomit* 

Another plus point, smaller generation gap. Communication between parents and children is important and essential to build up a happy and healthy family. with the age gap decrease, and there goes the generation gap. 

However it's not saying that young age mum 100% sure have small or no gap with their kids, they just own the advantage of young age and tendency to have smaller gap. 

My mum and I have like more than 30 years gap, but I think, we are so close to each other and there is no gap, perhaps only the 18SX topic that we can't talk about like friends, other than that, MY MUM is awesome mum! 

So, friend, prove to me you are just as awesome as my mum. I have no pan ni qi throughout my teenage time.

My friend syiok sendiri made the caption herself. I guess she is too desperate to listen it from him.
It's ok, Happy mother's day from me. wth. lol.

Fourth. 

strengthen the relationship. Build up sense of responsibility. 

How can you not melt seeing this?!

To me, A child is needed to build a family. *In case of me being infertile, I would go for adoption if test tube baby failed as well. oops, is that too much for you? haha *

Ya, Kid is annoying. But you can't ignore their role in contributing to the family.  They bond you n your love even closer. You know, relationship as it goes, it will come to a stage where you are so used to your love, and you may even forgot the love feeling that you used to have. And, kids, they would just remind you, they are born because of the love between you n your partner. Baby is a gift from God.



next,
Entertainment, cheh~~

kk, don't woooooooah me down first, it's my blog wey~ and you are reading it! calm yourself down and continue reading it.

Baby, before they learnt to walk, run, is the best entertainment and companion.

YUP!

 see.. How nice it would be if I can get my babe accompany me. *yeah, before they cry, shit and etc* *whatever*


Last but not least.
Life changed.
It could be more happy, or sorrow. could shine or gloomy.
It changes your point of view in everything.


Of cox, there are a lot challenges awaiting ahead.
like family issue, working issue and others.

my friend is definitely a lucky one, because she is supported by friends and both families.  *at beginning, her parents were quite disappointed, but, you know, blood is thicker than water. There is nothing can't be forgiven by parents. * *plus, husband is not poor la... or should I just directly say rich?! haha*



Marriage because of pregnancy. Is it doomed?


It depends on u. How you see it. And also, if it happened on you, how you handle it.
So,

lesson of the day

1. don't judge on people and help them to pre-set the ending first. You are not God. that's God's job, don't kepo. 
2. Say No to sex before marriage or play safe. *kill me* 
3. Don't set your mind about the not-that-happy-ending about your marriage because of pregnancy (if u have it) , no one knows what would happen next.

Friend. 你一定要幸福。。因为你值得拥有... cheh~ macam iklan wey~ wth. 

And to those who are going to have finals, and still reading my blog, *yeah, you la!* 

good luck for your finals! 

mummy also, good luck for your finals! 

Pretty girl VS Traffic Police

yeah, in movie, we always see this happen. A pretty girl *with nice boobs* can always escape from being fined.

YUP! it happens on me! *Does that prove I'm pretty?! cheh~* 

"pretty or not" is a very subjective question, but I am kinda sure my boobs doesn't contribute much on it *aeroplane me*, yes, I know myself quite well. 

I admit that I was wrong because of using emergency lane. *sorry... but it was a very short distance of it, just let me back earlier before i knocked someone's car, been driving for 5 hours continously* 

It was very smooth drive until the light from a torchlight flashed on me.  

"I'm dead! I'm dead!" repeats in my mind. 

A man with white uniform with a lot of badges on it who can be obviously recognized as traffic police man. There is a bunch of them wearing the same uniform. 

He smiled and waved at me, asked me to park aside. 

I did. *good girl me* 

Chit chat a lot with him *not that long la, within 10 minutes*

He also mentioned that I look like one of the chinese celebrity.

i think he was trying to hint me something when he said this*something that I guess everyone know what is that*  : "nak bagi you saman, jadi sekarang you nak macam mana?" translate: " have to fine you now.. so, what are you going to do with it"  

Being a Kiamsiap auntie and I only have few years left to use the pretty young face of mine to persuade him not to fine me. 

So

The final decision

MANJA,
Being a friendly girl,
Smile a lot.
Laugh at everything he said,
and try my best to continue friendly conversation.



Part of our conversation:
he asked me my marriage status.
I replied not yet, and LAUGH...

Smile while waiting for the other questions...

You nampak macam celebriti cina.. tak ingat la name dia.. 
translate: you look like a chinese celebrity, but I don't remember her name.

LAUGH.. SMILE...

"tak la, semua orang cina nampak same je..
translate: no la, all chinese look the same "

LAUGH... SMILE..  *out of topic sudden though: but it's quite true, it's rather hard to remember, recognise and differentiate people of other races. Do you get me? I'm not being racist, i'm just saying the fact. because to malay, indian or foreigners, chinese have small eyes, fairer skin, thin lips... the face feature is not so remarkable and 'significant' unlike them. big eyes, sharp nose, thick eyelashes. Hardly recognize a chinese that you know from a group of chinese from the first glance. True? back to topic*

" tak lah, u 2 tak sama pun. Translate: you two don't look the same " my junior was with me.
"dah kerja belum? Trabslate: working? "

"belum lah, masih belajar... jadi miskin sangat. Translate: not yet, still studying. that's why I'm so poor" 
here comes the pity kitten eyes... cheh~   

"yake? Translate: doubt on it." 

and continue the chit chat... blah blah blah

The result of it, I got mercy from him *mercy?!* he let me go without summons.  God bless!

He even asked me is he handsome. And you know my answer!  Haha. He actually not bad looking. 

The point is!
Now I recall everything of it because of writing it down.
Are they the real traffic police?
It's obviously what they are looking for. Rasuah, bribery! He didn't even plan to fine me because before of letting me go, he repeats few time of this sentences "nak bagi you saman, jadi sekarang you nak macam mana?" translate: " have to fine you now.. so, what are you going to do with it"  

Furthermore, the colleagues of him saw him releasing me, still tease me rather than correct him should not let me go just by that.

AND, he looks nervous when I tried to make phone call!!
I was planing to call my family about it, what should I do. *too pampered by parents that I have no idea how to handle this*
He starts getting nervous, keep asking me
"ade kawan ke? nak panggil siape?"  Translate: you have friends *i think he means friends working in police station*? who are you calling to?

I didn't answer because I'm not good in multitasking.

and he repeated that.

here's my answer.
"jap, nak call kawan kejap. saya guna emergency lane sebab ade emergency, nak meet dengan kawan. jadi sekarang panggil mereka tunggu saya kejap." Translate:please wait for a moment, because i'm going to call my friends who I plan to meet. I used emergency lane because I am going to be late. So i call them ask them to wait for me" *lame excuse, but impossible I tell him my original plan, right?*

Before I manage to make a call. He stopped me.
"tak ape la, u jalan la. Tunggu u, sampai malam sudah" Translate: it's ok, you can go now. It's going to be late if I still wait for you." *I'm not really sure what he means, but I was so excited that I got escaped from it*

I reconfirm with him *stupid, what if he changed his mind*
Luckily he didn't. So i continue my journey.


Why he let me go when I make phone call? 
There were cases before, the fake police actually pretend themselves as police by wearing the uniform, fake the car into police car.  *it's not that difficult to get police uniform. Money can make almost everything possible"
The fake police receive bribe from people who broke the rules. Malaysia is also a country which is quite well known of its bribery ranking, so the idea of faking police is also quite a clever move in crime making. guess how much would they earn from that.



P.s: i'm still not sure whether they are real police or not.



But for safety purpose
next time, if you are stopped by policeman, please ask for their ID, they should have one.
pretend to make a call to someone. It might changed the result of being stopped.



In dilemma, hope that they are real or fake police.
Real: it's really because of me pretty~~ *vomit* and the mercy!
Fake: poor bitch that couldn't afford to bribe me and still stop at here. Wasting my time!  *i think it may cross his mind.*


no matter what. thankful of what happened. And lesson of the day, don't use the emergency lane. If you used it, make sure there's no trap in front. LOL.

不争的事实 The Ugly Truth.

P.s: direct translate from chinese. Would appreciate if you tell me how do write it better in english/ chinese

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FACT 1: 
孩子生下来不是讨债就是还债 
The reason of the child brought to live;  to collect debt or return the debt. 

I was told by one of the bff, and it was from her mother. It's so true. We came and spend our parents  money, love, care and time. There is no guarantee that our parents would get back what they have spent on us. The news*gossip* which youngs in the family actually reluctant to take care their parents is not something new to me. I have seen cases even worse where the old treated differently before and after they pass down the property. That's not new.

Wanna say, daddy, mummy, popo.. I love you~~ I am so glad that my parents have been doing great of their responsibility as son and daughter-in-law. *I even feel bit lucky that my mum didn't grow up with her mother, so my mum sees my grandma as her MOTHER. (I know I'm selfish that I feel so. Forgive me. )*
I am here to pay the debt!

P.s: My grandma look like the grandma in the tweety bird cartoon, doesn't she? 

FACT 2: 
两个人一起讨厌同一样东西或事物或同一个人，相比与喜欢同一要东西有同样的爱好与看法，前者的友谊往往会建立得比较快与熟悉。 别急于否认, 你一定曾经有过那样。
People tend to get closer faster by having hatred towards the same person or thing rather than having the same hobby. 


FACT 3:
 每个人都有自己的看法， 注重的东西也会不一样。
Everyone hold different point of view. 

Try to respect everyone and understand each and every person would have different perspective on the same thing. 

FACT 4:
与其埋怨他人，不如想想自己有做好自己的本分.
Don't judge other before you judge yourself. Judge is God's work, not yours. 

True.

FACT 5:
人与动物不一样的地方并不是我们能主宰他们，而是因为我们可以思考。
What different us from animal is the wisdom and knowledge. Without it, you are not much different to animals. 

So Chia Lin!!!! READ MORE~~~

SERIOUSLY?!

FACT 6:
兽医学是唯一一个可以用动物的理由来早退。
Vet course is the only course which animal-related-issue-reason sounds so reasonable to be off earlier. 

Here's the story, my friend attend to some veterinary related activity and the reason to go back before the event end is "I have to feed my cat, no one is home today.". And one of the law school friend heard of it, amazed and think it is insane, just imagine using that reason to ask from going back earlier to the law school lecturer. NOW YOU KNOW WHY VET SCHOOL IS COOL.


FACT 7:
别期待。 只要你不期望别人为你做东西，你就不会失望。
The less you expect, the least chances of getting disappointed. 

FACT 8:
理由重复得太多就会变借口。而在错误面前，借口只会让事情变得更糟。
THE MORE THE REASON USED, THE MORE IT SOUNDS LIKE AN EXCUSE. 

Or it is an excuse?! LOL. Don't give reason on why you can't make it, find a solution hot to make it. *oh yeah, it sounds so easy, score 4.0 this semester la.. can?! * *self talking to myself* *wa lao~~*

FACT 9:错就要认 Admit the mistake you made. 

Just admit, no need apologize. =P

FACT 10:
尊严没来得比朋友重要。可重要的朋友都不会让你放下尊严。

FACT 11:
女人要懂得装傻。
EPIC LADY IS A LADY WHO KNOWS TO PRETEND NOT KNOWING WHAT THE GUYS TRYING TO DO. 

GIRLS MUST KNOW THIS! not saying boyfriend cheated on you, it's like you know your boyfriend or friend trying to make a surprise for you. AND YOU FOUND IT OUT, just pretend that you never realized on it. DON'T FAIL THEIR EFFORT, bitch. =P

FACT 12:
听过的笑话装没听过比当场揭露笑话谜底来得好。 (BLAH BLAH BLAH. NOT IMPORTANT)


FACT 13:
凡事留一线，日后好相见 (BLAH BLAH BLAH, VERY IMPORTANT but no idea how to make it sounds intelligent. sorry people. ) 

Everything and anything, it's better to not saying harsh words or make something hurtful to a person that would make him hold grudge on you. Who knows he will be the one promote you, help you when you need him. Don't treat people the way you don't want to be treated is the principle of mine. And I'm still learning. =D 

UPDATE: 
Ugly truth 2 written when I get to know I was hated.