Ugly Truth 2

No one can be liked by everyone.

We were born and raised up into personality. Each of us is special because no one would be the same with us, even identical twins have their own different thoughts.

And once a person is hated and got chopped HATE in the mindset, anything that he/she does would annoy you. Even walk pass you, you also felt annoyed.

I know this well. *have I told you one of my bff is someone I used to hate? haha* So, I manage to remove the mindset. It's either I'm too kind to her or she is just too funny and nice that I scold myself for hated her before or both. I think it's because I'm too kind haha. XP



I know the fact, but I still feel sad when I get to know that I was hated or disliked by someone. For this time, it's a she. I don't know. I always try to be nice with her, but maybe it's in her mindset already.


I'm not perfect and don't want to be perfect, even when I become perfect, I think there will still have people that don't like me. No one can be liked by everyone.



To the haters, if you don't like me, just ignore me. Because if I would do the same.


To my friends, so glad that you guys are always there for me whenever I need you guys. Fun and laughter, Sad and sorrow, still be with me. Food and gossip, Karaoke and lecture, Notes and bills. Thanks for everything as you guys are a part in my life.

So glad that my food blogger friends still contact me even I can't attend the food review for thousand times and FFK once. *aaaaawhhhhh sorry*


Thanks to hater, that you remind me how good my life is.
And I see your life is good also. But if you don't dislike me, it would be better. Because I'm a funny person deep down inside and one of my coursemate Miss daisy duck hated me also. But see, she likes me so much now. *waaaaa...* *I'm serious. Maybe less than T la. I know it's less than T* haha.


I  think the only person can be liked have to look like this.

The red one named ZaiZai and I'm his mum. He is such a no manner kid that laughed at greenie's small penis can only be covered with 1 leaf. haha.

Smile more.


Ugly truth 1

Reborn.

A friend of mine, we know each other since secondary school had accident and was diagnosed with cerebral hemorrhage.

He just had brain surgery and it was successful. The only thing we can do now is wait and pray. Wait and pray for him to wake up from the most dangerous sleep ever in his life.

He is so young, at my age, and he was always been helpful and I remember he was my classmate before and  he always goes gym work out. And he has perfect body shape!! haha. He is fun and cute. He likes short girls haha.



When he wake up, it would definitely a reborn to him.
To a new life.
Gambateh!


To my other friends, please take care and be very careful of everything, especially on roads.

I can't afford to lose any of my friends. You are a part of my memory.

Dear Courage

In life, a lot of decision we have to make.

From minor, small matter to major, big changes, all we need to make our own decision. 

From "where to eat, eat what, wear what clothes" to "What course should I study, circle A or B or C in Multiple Choice Question that you seriously have no idea which is the correct one *OIK, Did I put it at wrong side?!* Should I take the job that I've been studying for years?"  

Because we are the one responsible for our lives respectively. 

No one should be blamed other than yourself for the decision you made or the decision that you should have made. 

But making a life-changing-decision needs courage. 

Dear Courage. Please be with them while they fight for their future and dream career. 

Not everyone would have this bravery to step out the first step. 

To my cousin, to my friends and other people who need this courage 

Believe on your faith and believe on yourself

Do your best and leave the others to God. 

After you stepped out the first step, no matter what, it is something you are not going to regret. 

That's more than enough.  

Thank you mummy, daddy. Let me choose vet med over human med and dentistry. 

Next decision to make, what field I should be in. 

I have no idea yet. But I know, no matter what field I'll be in, I have to study hard first.

Dear courage, be with me and be with them. for every decision we made. For the challenge. and for our future. 

A letter to myself and a self talk

I wish. I wish the negative memory can be deleted.

I wish that I wouldn't care so much

I wish all that never happened. 

I wish I could let it go. 

I wish I wouldn't recall any of that moment. 

I wish I am not a attention seeker. 

I wish I can hate you. 

I wish I can just forget about trying to be friend with you. 

I wish you can take my jokes. 

I wish I have higher Eq.

I wish I never see the bad side of you.

I wish we are not the casualty of the incidence. 

I wish I don't need to be pretend nothing happen before.

I wish........

Don't remind me. Because I am a coward that don't want to recall any of that. 

You are the biggest dark spot in my life. I admit. 

I'm not sure whether you find me the same not. 

But we know, we don't treat each other the same like last time anymore. 

As I not even dare to do so. 

I hate being a baby. 

I hate being sensitive. you are also sensitive as well. which make it even worse. 

-Chia Lin-

不争的事实 The Ugly Truth.

P.s: direct translate from chinese. Would appreciate if you tell me how do write it better in english/ chinese

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FACT 1: 
孩子生下来不是讨债就是还债 
The reason of the child brought to live;  to collect debt or return the debt. 

I was told by one of the bff, and it was from her mother. It's so true. We came and spend our parents  money, love, care and time. There is no guarantee that our parents would get back what they have spent on us. The news*gossip* which youngs in the family actually reluctant to take care their parents is not something new to me. I have seen cases even worse where the old treated differently before and after they pass down the property. That's not new.

Wanna say, daddy, mummy, popo.. I love you~~ I am so glad that my parents have been doing great of their responsibility as son and daughter-in-law. *I even feel bit lucky that my mum didn't grow up with her mother, so my mum sees my grandma as her MOTHER. (I know I'm selfish that I feel so. Forgive me. )*
I am here to pay the debt!

P.s: My grandma look like the grandma in the tweety bird cartoon, doesn't she? 

FACT 2: 
两个人一起讨厌同一样东西或事物或同一个人，相比与喜欢同一要东西有同样的爱好与看法，前者的友谊往往会建立得比较快与熟悉。 别急于否认, 你一定曾经有过那样。
People tend to get closer faster by having hatred towards the same person or thing rather than having the same hobby. 


FACT 3:
 每个人都有自己的看法， 注重的东西也会不一样。
Everyone hold different point of view. 

Try to respect everyone and understand each and every person would have different perspective on the same thing. 

FACT 4:
与其埋怨他人，不如想想自己有做好自己的本分.
Don't judge other before you judge yourself. Judge is God's work, not yours. 

True.

FACT 5:
人与动物不一样的地方并不是我们能主宰他们，而是因为我们可以思考。
What different us from animal is the wisdom and knowledge. Without it, you are not much different to animals. 

So Chia Lin!!!! READ MORE~~~

SERIOUSLY?!

FACT 6:
兽医学是唯一一个可以用动物的理由来早退。
Vet course is the only course which animal-related-issue-reason sounds so reasonable to be off earlier. 

Here's the story, my friend attend to some veterinary related activity and the reason to go back before the event end is "I have to feed my cat, no one is home today.". And one of the law school friend heard of it, amazed and think it is insane, just imagine using that reason to ask from going back earlier to the law school lecturer. NOW YOU KNOW WHY VET SCHOOL IS COOL.


FACT 7:
别期待。 只要你不期望别人为你做东西，你就不会失望。
The less you expect, the least chances of getting disappointed. 

FACT 8:
理由重复得太多就会变借口。而在错误面前，借口只会让事情变得更糟。
THE MORE THE REASON USED, THE MORE IT SOUNDS LIKE AN EXCUSE. 

Or it is an excuse?! LOL. Don't give reason on why you can't make it, find a solution hot to make it. *oh yeah, it sounds so easy, score 4.0 this semester la.. can?! * *self talking to myself* *wa lao~~*

FACT 9:错就要认 Admit the mistake you made. 

Just admit, no need apologize. =P

FACT 10:
尊严没来得比朋友重要。可重要的朋友都不会让你放下尊严。

FACT 11:
女人要懂得装傻。
EPIC LADY IS A LADY WHO KNOWS TO PRETEND NOT KNOWING WHAT THE GUYS TRYING TO DO. 

GIRLS MUST KNOW THIS! not saying boyfriend cheated on you, it's like you know your boyfriend or friend trying to make a surprise for you. AND YOU FOUND IT OUT, just pretend that you never realized on it. DON'T FAIL THEIR EFFORT, bitch. =P

FACT 12:
听过的笑话装没听过比当场揭露笑话谜底来得好。 (BLAH BLAH BLAH. NOT IMPORTANT)


FACT 13:
凡事留一线，日后好相见 (BLAH BLAH BLAH, VERY IMPORTANT but no idea how to make it sounds intelligent. sorry people. ) 

Everything and anything, it's better to not saying harsh words or make something hurtful to a person that would make him hold grudge on you. Who knows he will be the one promote you, help you when you need him. Don't treat people the way you don't want to be treated is the principle of mine. And I'm still learning. =D 

UPDATE: 
Ugly truth 2 written when I get to know I was hated. 

To be a better ME

I always have this problem with me. The way I look at people.

Sometime people would mistakenly thought that i stare at them (not in a good way), but actually i was looking at them with my mind goes blank/thinking something else. But i would like to make a change. 

I realised it during my practical in Sabah where the farm manager actually asked me why would I stare at him in a unfriendly way. (He is young, and only few years older than me, so it was more like a friend chat rather than accusing me) SO I ask around, and only I realised how annoying the way I look at people. It's kinda fierce. 

SOOO, i was thinking could it be like this! 

Damn suspicious. *actually i was looking at 9gag and this make me laugh*
*what's your problem!*

 Or maybe it's a very suspicious look that may people feel annoyed.

*I know you did something! just admit it!* 

 Or maybe even worse~!

*YOU OWE ME SOMETHING!*

Or maybe I have "Haki" just like Luffy. =P 

I actually didn't even know that until I enter university. Maybe I also stare at my secondary school friends like that, just that they know me better that I didn't mean it. 

  

Anyway, I know people don't like that, and I would like to make a change. Treat people the way you want to be treated. So, I keep reminding myself.

Here is the checklist to be better me.

This is the actual ME! "Did you just said I'm cute?! Stop it~~~*

1. Don't stare at people
2. Smile more 
3. Greet more
4. Don't care who is the one start the conversation. You never know a person well unless you become a friend of his or her. Don't judge a book from its cover, who knows he or she could be one of your close friends.  *One of my bestfriend was actually someone i really don't like/ hate because I think she was such a arrogant jackass, but end up be my besttie. The funny thing is she also thought i'm the arrogant jackass* *WAIT, does that mean it all started as early as during secondary school? the unfriendly way of looking at other people?! HAIH* 
5. OK, then Don't act like arrogant jackass.
6. Don't walk like a gangster. *it's really hard for me to change that because I've been walking like that for 20 years, but I would try. No harm trying, right? >.<*
7. Don't gossip. *it's too hard... maybe reduce bit?? =P*
8. Be optimistic! just like him! 

There is a lot more, but take a break.. step by step. haha. 

If I ever stare at you, I'm sorry, i didn't mean it. (exception to the people annoy me.haha. Joking la, If I dislike that person, I would choose reduce conversation, rather than stare at him.. stare at people would increase wrinkles around eyes, not worth it to stare at people that I dislike. haha *idiot me*)

oooooosh! don't give up! 

Long live in memory

You know you are not just gone with your heart stop beating.

Forgive us opt to do this, but it would be the best for you rather see you suffer.

I'm not your owner, you are not my pet. But you've been living in my life since I'm in college. Can trace the evidence of you living with us and your beloved owner still not yet want to remove all that traces that would remind her that you were living with her. I wish I could tell her that time,

even without all that things, we would never forget of you, because you live in our memory that would last till we step in grave.

 Tears running down and ruin the chance of me to tell her this and cheer her up. Sorry.

The house is more quiet without you, less cheerful without you. Time will heal the wound and form the scar in heart but doesn't mean that we would forget you. We would be stronger without you be with us, but we know you are watching us from the heaven. (i'm glad that you are not my pet because if you are, you would be Buddhist and have to enter the cycle again, be animal or human, *if you are good enough or lucky enough---be dewa* that you are destined to be, and suffer again, life is suffering)


Thank you, Smokey, for every cheers, every grudge (especially during exam time that we all suffer in study while you sit on our notes or sleep or eat or play), every small little things in memory that would make us smile (such as falling from the bed *stupid cat*). And thank you, God, bring her to us, and have her with you now.

Bless us, to be vets with knowledge and empathy.

and to the owner if you happen to see this post, we know Smokey is irreplaceable, but we are here for you. You did a great job as a owner. Life is precious because it has an end that we couldn't avoid. And for years, she's been living great with all the care from you and us.
To cheer you up, I give you this!

*what just happened?*
*who are you?*

Haha. Hope it can make you laugh.

Long live Smokey.
and rest in peace.

With love,
Chia Lin